tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19178228.post8293309238565887542..comments2023-08-26T12:08:50.270-04:00Comments on A Right Gapesnest: Weighing Future Financial OptionsM. Lubbershttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13689096558796490683noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19178228.post-17933044004305071282008-03-04T14:53:00.000-05:002008-03-04T14:53:00.000-05:00It's sometimes astonishing to me how much an adopt...It's sometimes astonishing to me how much an adoptive parents' decisions are dictated by the social services system, and how little control the same system exerts over natural parents.<BR/><BR/>I often think that natural parents could use more vetting or at least rating of their parental abilities and remediation early on in their children's lives.M. Lubbershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13689096558796490683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19178228.post-14111391010614948052008-03-03T04:57:00.000-05:002008-03-03T04:57:00.000-05:00We have been faced with the same question recently...We have been faced with the same question recently, and decided to try and survive on just my money if we can to give the children more input. Our decision was pretty made for us though by the social services - because we are adopting.<BR/><BR/>I would like to think we would have done the same anyway.Jonathan Becketthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00996198929462191315noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19178228.post-80647379620276971012008-02-27T15:54:00.000-05:002008-02-27T15:54:00.000-05:00Not that I have great insight/experience here, but...Not that I have great insight/experience here, but I have friends who decided to stay home because the cost of daycare was close to/exceeded their salaries, they couldn't find good daycares, etc. But I also know people who continued to work for sanity's sake. It doesn't hurt to look into your daycare options and make the decision after Little L is here.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19178228.post-52850241390477396202008-02-25T21:38:00.000-05:002008-02-25T21:38:00.000-05:00Actually Amy, that's the same advice my boss gave ...Actually Amy, that's the same advice my boss gave me! I told her that I hadn't made up my mind whether I was going to quit yet ... she said I shouldn't make up my mind. And if anyone at work asked me, I should tell them I would definitely be coming back. And then I'd have 3 months after the baby is born to make up my mind. <BR/><BR/>So I'm not going to make the final decision until after Little L has appeared. And I think you're right—it will all become clear at that point. But of course, that won't stop me from worrying about it in the meantime!M. Lubbershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13689096558796490683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19178228.post-78521053422474698732008-02-25T08:54:00.000-05:002008-02-25T08:54:00.000-05:00Here's my $.02 -- don't think about it till after ...Here's my $.02 -- don't think about it till after the baby comes. Having Little L in the world may totally make up your mind for you; you may decide there's no WAY, money or not, that you want to put him/her in daycare. Or you may decide there's no WAY you can stay at home 24/7 caring for him/her. It's usually a lot clearer when you're holding the little bundle than when you're thinking about things theoretically.Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08956506306626463447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19178228.post-66172173463491506072008-02-22T14:41:00.000-05:002008-02-22T14:41:00.000-05:00Actually, I was looking for advice! But I guess I ...Actually, I was looking for advice! But I guess I didn't explicitly ask for it—I figured people are always happy to give it;)<BR/><BR/>I had never thought about the aspect that, as Little L grows, he/she will need more interaction and would benefit more from daycare. That's a good point! Thanks for bringing it to my attention. And the pondering continues ....M. Lubbershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13689096558796490683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19178228.post-26574783679168260432008-02-22T14:39:00.000-05:002008-02-22T14:39:00.000-05:00I know you didn't ask for suggestions but I'm goin...I know you didn't ask for suggestions but I'm going to give one anyway, and whether you choose to read it is up to you. :o) I don't ever want to have kids, but if I did, I don't think that I would want to be miss my first kid's first few months. Can you stay home for the first year or two and then work/put Little L in daycare? By then he or she will need more social interaction anyway.<BR/><BR/>Of course you'll be paying more in mortgage/car loan interest, but nothing's more important than being there for your first baby's first year.<BR/><BR/>Okay, that's my unwarranted, unwanted advice. Whatever you and Keith feel in your hearts will be the right decision. You have a little time to ponder, anyway! :o)<BR/><BR/>Good luck!!FitGeGehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11194292677612985399noreply@blogger.com